The feeling of the red bikini

Something a little different this week. I wanted to share something that one of my long term clients wrote as part of a writing exercise we came up with as a goal.

For context - this client, let’s call her R, has been working with me for a long time and she recently had a wonderful moment when she found a red bikini she felt confident enough to wear. This piece was inspired by that purchase.

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Breaking free from the 'perfect' myth

Perfectionism - not only is a myth - but it's highly damaging belief system. It fuels the thought 'if I can look perfect and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimise feelings of hurt, shame and judgement.' What happens when we fail in our pursuit of the goal we want is, instead of looking at our idea for perfection, we see ourselves as the failing. Which ironically, only leads to more shame, hurt and judgement. 

This all equals a shit ton of 'I'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH' 

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6 Real Reasons Diets Always Fail

The diet industry is worth BILLIONS. And yet, there is ample proof now that diets do not work in the long term. 90% of dieters put all the weight back on within 5 years PLUS MORE. You are literally going to get fatter because of dieting. Yet, it's they're still taking our money year after year!

Happiness is not to be found in rock hard abs or a thigh gap. I promise. Here are 6 real reasons diets always fail... 

 

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Why diets are so tempting, despite not working

The period after Christmas and into the beginning of Jan can still triggering as fuck for me, as it can for lots of people.

Even if you know that diets don’t work, that you’re actually much better off NOT going on a diet (and in fact you’re likely to be thinner in the long run by staying the hell away) these messages can still get you. The diet industry is clever AF and they know how to get into our heads and our wallets.

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How to deal with negative weight & food comments at Christmas

It’s Christmas! Yay, who doesn’t love an excess amount of tinsel, fairy lights and time off work. All good things. But, among the merriment there can be a LOT of challenges for those of us on a body acceptance path.

If we’re lucky, for 99% of the rest of the year we can create our own worlds. We can detox from negative people and avoid situations which makes us feel uncomfortable but at Christmas, it’s different.

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Letting go of the fantasy body

Such a huge part of body acceptance is grieving your 'fantasy body'.

You know the one - the one you've had as a poster in your mind forevs. Your 'dream body' when all your problems will disappear!

I know how it feels to daydream over transformation photos wishing (more than anything) to look like that.

Imagining a future when you'll be thin/toned/sculpted and be able to frolic naked free from insecurity. Or buying clothes too small as 'motivation' for your future body. Ugh. These days need to stop.

It’s time to let it go.

Easier said than done though right?


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