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How to accept compliment (even about your body)

I’m away with my new boyfriend and it’s our first trip abroad together. The relationship isn’t that new (it’s not like I met him yesterday) but it’s still new for me because for a long time (8 years) I was in a relationship which ended earlier this year. I haven’t shared anything about this aspect of my life with you yet although I’ve wanted to. In particular, I’ve wanted to write about the feelings about my body that have been coming up since starting this new relationship but I wasn’t ready to share them - until now. 

I’ve been doing this work for a really long time - and I thought I’d conquered pretty much all of my body demons. Turns out, when it came to sex and relationship I definitely hadn’t! I’d been so comfy on my old relationship that this part of myself hadn’t really had to develop. (I got into a relationship at 26 and didn’t have to think about getting naked with anyone new until I hit 34! That’s one hell of a comfort blanket.) When that support scaffolding was removed, I had to put myself out there anew - well, it turns out that those demons from my teenage years and twenties hadn’t gone away, they’d just been sleeping. 

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6 Real Reasons Diets Always Fail

The diet industry is worth BILLIONS. And yet, there is ample proof now that diets do not work in the long term. 90% of dieters put all the weight back on within 5 years PLUS MORE. You are literally going to get fatter because of dieting. Yet, it's they're still taking our money year after year!

Happiness is not to be found in rock hard abs or a thigh gap. I promise. Here are 6 real reasons diets always fail... 

 

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Why diets are so tempting, despite not working

The period after Christmas and into the beginning of Jan can still triggering as fuck for me, as it can for lots of people.

Even if you know that diets don’t work, that you’re actually much better off NOT going on a diet (and in fact you’re likely to be thinner in the long run by staying the hell away) these messages can still get you. The diet industry is clever AF and they know how to get into our heads and our wallets.

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How to deal with negative weight & food comments at Christmas

It’s Christmas! Yay, who doesn’t love an excess amount of tinsel, fairy lights and time off work. All good things. But, among the merriment there can be a LOT of challenges for those of us on a body acceptance path.

If we’re lucky, for 99% of the rest of the year we can create our own worlds. We can detox from negative people and avoid situations which makes us feel uncomfortable but at Christmas, it’s different.

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Letting go of the fantasy body

Such a huge part of body acceptance is grieving your 'fantasy body'.

You know the one - the one you've had as a poster in your mind forevs. Your 'dream body' when all your problems will disappear!

I know how it feels to daydream over transformation photos wishing (more than anything) to look like that.

Imagining a future when you'll be thin/toned/sculpted and be able to frolic naked free from insecurity. Or buying clothes too small as 'motivation' for your future body. Ugh. These days need to stop.

It’s time to let it go.

Easier said than done though right?


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Count moments not steps

This year will be a pretty big one for me. In the 12 months from January 2018 to January 2019 everything in my life (well, 99% of things) will be different. I’m about to move out of London after 7 years. In the time I’ve been here I’ve made countless friends, had 5 jobs, lived in 3 flats and despite saying I’ll be single for at least a year when I first moved, met the boy I would married within the first 6 months of being here and married him (not in the same year).

Truthfully, the first two years of being a Londoner, I hated it. London was too busy, too big, too noisy, too expensive and the people are rude. Now, London is still all those things but I love it. So why am I leaving?

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