Posts tagged body acceptance
How to accept compliment (even about your body)

I’m away with my new boyfriend and it’s our first trip abroad together. The relationship isn’t that new (it’s not like I met him yesterday) but it’s still new for me because for a long time (8 years) I was in a relationship which ended earlier this year. I haven’t shared anything about this aspect of my life with you yet although I’ve wanted to. In particular, I’ve wanted to write about the feelings about my body that have been coming up since starting this new relationship but I wasn’t ready to share them - until now. 

I’ve been doing this work for a really long time - and I thought I’d conquered pretty much all of my body demons. Turns out, when it came to sex and relationship I definitely hadn’t! I’d been so comfy on my old relationship that this part of myself hadn’t really had to develop. (I got into a relationship at 26 and didn’t have to think about getting naked with anyone new until I hit 34! That’s one hell of a comfort blanket.) When that support scaffolding was removed, I had to put myself out there anew - well, it turns out that those demons from my teenage years and twenties hadn’t gone away, they’d just been sleeping. 

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Making peace with beach photos

Beach body fears are perhaps what most of my clients most dread at Summer - and I get it, I used to hate the warm weather for the same reason. This week I got to push the boundaries of my own healing and discover just how far I've come by setting myself a bikini photo challenge every day during my Greek holiday.

If you've ever had a moment of fear at seeing a camera on your hols, then this blog is for you.  

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How to get rid of your inner bitch voice?

Ooph, we can be mean to ourselves can’t we?! It almost always breaks my heart when I have the first session with my clients to hear the things they say about themselves.

We speak to ourselves in ways we would never, ever speak to anyone else. An important, in fact pivotal point in the body acceptance journey is being able to soften the inner dialogue but in order to start doing that we have to become familiar of the words we’re using against ourselves. This might take time, don’t worry. It may be that – like many of us — your self-critical voice is so common for you that you don’t even notice when it is present.

If you think about how long we’ve been saying these things to ourselves - it’s no wonder it’s going to take a bit of time to change them!

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How to deal with negative weight & food comments at Christmas

It’s Christmas! Yay, who doesn’t love an excess amount of tinsel, fairy lights and time off work. All good things. But, among the merriment there can be a LOT of challenges for those of us on a body acceptance path.

If we’re lucky, for 99% of the rest of the year we can create our own worlds. We can detox from negative people and avoid situations which makes us feel uncomfortable but at Christmas, it’s different.

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Letting go of the fantasy body

Such a huge part of body acceptance is grieving your 'fantasy body'.

You know the one - the one you've had as a poster in your mind forevs. Your 'dream body' when all your problems will disappear!

I know how it feels to daydream over transformation photos wishing (more than anything) to look like that.

Imagining a future when you'll be thin/toned/sculpted and be able to frolic naked free from insecurity. Or buying clothes too small as 'motivation' for your future body. Ugh. These days need to stop.

It’s time to let it go.

Easier said than done though right?


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Stop giving yourself a hard time about exercise

This week I did some cardio. There’s a full stop there because it’s literally been so long since I did some that it’s a sentence in and of itself. Sure, I like to stretch, I walk places, go dancing yada yada yada but I haven’t formalised my exercise all year. (Yup, I’m a health coach and I’ve had a sporadic exercise routine for months. Shock horror. I actually feel a little bit ashamed writing that down, but that’s the need for this piece, so keep reading...)

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