Posts tagged body positivity
The feeling of the red bikini

Something a little different this week. I wanted to share something that one of my long term clients wrote as part of a writing exercise we came up with as a goal.

For context - this client, let’s call her R, has been working with me for a long time and she recently had a wonderful moment when she found a red bikini she felt confident enough to wear. This piece was inspired by that purchase.

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Breaking free from the 'perfect' myth

Perfectionism - not only is a myth - but it's highly damaging belief system. It fuels the thought 'if I can look perfect and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimise feelings of hurt, shame and judgement.' What happens when we fail in our pursuit of the goal we want is, instead of looking at our idea for perfection, we see ourselves as the failing. Which ironically, only leads to more shame, hurt and judgement. 

This all equals a shit ton of 'I'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH' 

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How to deal with negative weight & food comments at Christmas

It’s Christmas! Yay, who doesn’t love an excess amount of tinsel, fairy lights and time off work. All good things. But, among the merriment there can be a LOT of challenges for those of us on a body acceptance path.

If we’re lucky, for 99% of the rest of the year we can create our own worlds. We can detox from negative people and avoid situations which makes us feel uncomfortable but at Christmas, it’s different.

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Letting go of the fantasy body

Such a huge part of body acceptance is grieving your 'fantasy body'.

You know the one - the one you've had as a poster in your mind forevs. Your 'dream body' when all your problems will disappear!

I know how it feels to daydream over transformation photos wishing (more than anything) to look like that.

Imagining a future when you'll be thin/toned/sculpted and be able to frolic naked free from insecurity. Or buying clothes too small as 'motivation' for your future body. Ugh. These days need to stop.

It’s time to let it go.

Easier said than done though right?


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Count moments not steps

This year will be a pretty big one for me. In the 12 months from January 2018 to January 2019 everything in my life (well, 99% of things) will be different. I’m about to move out of London after 7 years. In the time I’ve been here I’ve made countless friends, had 5 jobs, lived in 3 flats and despite saying I’ll be single for at least a year when I first moved, met the boy I would married within the first 6 months of being here and married him (not in the same year).

Truthfully, the first two years of being a Londoner, I hated it. London was too busy, too big, too noisy, too expensive and the people are rude. Now, London is still all those things but I love it. So why am I leaving?

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5 ways to slay at autumn body acceptance

Recently I asked my Instagram fam how they felt in the changing season i.e from summer to autumn, and it seems that the shift from long days to colder nights brings about some hella relief from body insecurities. Summer is relentless in it’s messaging to ‘get a bikini body’ or don’t dare wear one (cheers diet culture). The hot weather invariably means either pushing yourself to show some skin or should that feel like a fate worse than death, sweating it out as best as you can.


Autumn is kinder. Autumn says, ‘oh hey jumpers and boots!’. It’s hot chocolate, root vegetables, woolly hats and it’s seeing what gems you might find the pocket when you put on your winter coat again (like discovering last year’s snotty tissues and an occasional fiver).

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