This week I did some cardio. There’s a full stop there because it’s literally been so long since I did some that it’s a sentence in and of itself. Sure, I like to stretch, I walk places, go dancing yada yada yada but I haven’t formalised my exercise all year. (Yup, I’m a health coach and I’ve had a sporadic exercise routine for months. Shock horror. I actually feel a little bit ashamed writing that down, but that’s the need for this piece, so keep reading...)Read More
So I’m a body acceptance health coach. WTF is that?
Fair question. I coach people in how to unapologetically love their bodies. You don’t have to wake up and love every inch of yourself every single day, every single minute - but it means that even when you catch a negative thought about your body (you’re being told all the time repeatedly by the media that you need to change so give yourself a break) you’re able to catch the thought, neutralise it and believe that you are worthy of love.Read More
Body acceptance means learning to embrace yourself just as you are, lumps, bumps, scars, sags, dimples and all. It means stopping try to shrink, mould or change how you look through restriction or excessive exercise. And it means giving up that there’s a point in the future where your body will have conformed in such a way that you’re happy.
For a LOT of my clients getting to this phase feels a long way off. It feels like a whole different planet away sometimes.Read More
Earlier this week I found this photo of when I was 26. It really look my off guard because I was genuinely shocked at how great I looked (in a mid-twenties girls night out kinda way) It was actually pretty triggering because it made me think 'wow, I really should try and get back in the gym and stop eating cake <insert delicious food here>'Read More
The other night, I caught myself ‘feeling fat’. Luckily, I’m pretty good at catching old thought patterns about my body so instead of allowing myself to step on the scales and play Russian roulette with my self-esteem (i.e. if the scales are less than I thought then I must be wrong, ‘feeling’ will be less and I’ll go back to feeling happy. But if the scales are up then the feeling must be right, I must be fat and my thoughts will spiral into a full body attack), nuh uh, not anymore. Instead, I looked at the sensation with curiosity.
Fat is not a feeling it is a descriptor. I have fat, just like I have green eyes and bleached hair. I’m not fat. We all have fat. We would die without fat. Yet those three words are some of the most loaded we have in our back pocket.Read More
Yesterday I did a workshop and we were talking about social media. A girl said to the group that she fills her feed with fitness models as it motivates her to one day look like them. Maybe that works for her and doesn't trigger her to outwardly feel bad about herself, but I would just like to put it to you that if you’re always hoping to find happiness in a future version of yourself - that’s diet mentality! See, diet mentality is sneaky. It doesn’t always trigger you to feel outwardly shit about yourself but if you’re always thinking you could look better you’re forever telling yourself that you don’t like yourself how you are, right now.Read More