Posts tagged fat
Breaking free from the 'perfect' myth

Perfectionism - not only is a myth - but it's highly damaging belief system. It fuels the thought 'if I can look perfect and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimise feelings of hurt, shame and judgement.' What happens when we fail in our pursuit of the goal we want is, instead of looking at our idea for perfection, we see ourselves as the failing. Which ironically, only leads to more shame, hurt and judgement. 

This all equals a shit ton of 'I'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH' 

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How to stop feeling fat (and ask yourself what's really up)

The other night, I caught myself ‘feeling fat’. Luckily, I’m pretty good at catching old thought patterns about my body so instead of allowing myself to step on the scales and play Russian roulette with my self-esteem (i.e. if the scales are less than I thought then I must be wrong, ‘feeling’ will be less and I’ll go back to feeling happy. But if the scales are up then the feeling must be right, I must be fat and my thoughts will spiral into a full body attack),  nuh uh, not anymore. Instead, I looked at the sensation with curiosity.

Fat is not a feeling it is a descriptor. I have fat, just like I have green eyes and bleached hair. I’m not fat. We all have fat. We would die without fat. Yet those three words are some of the most loaded we have in our back pocket. 

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