Posts tagged happiness
Breaking free from the 'perfect' myth

Perfectionism - not only is a myth - but it's highly damaging belief system. It fuels the thought 'if I can look perfect and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimise feelings of hurt, shame and judgement.' What happens when we fail in our pursuit of the goal we want is, instead of looking at our idea for perfection, we see ourselves as the failing. Which ironically, only leads to more shame, hurt and judgement. 

This all equals a shit ton of 'I'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH' 

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6 ways jealousy can be a good thing

We’re taught from a young age that envy is a pretty ugly emotion. And let’s be honest, no one really wants to fess up to wanting what someone else has got. But in reality, sometimes we can’t help but look at another person's life and feel a bit… I want what they’ve got. Am I right?

I’ve definitely been guilty in the past of looking at what other successful women are doing and thinking, why does she deserve to that? Or thinking, how come she gets everything so easily when I’m working so hard? Or bitching in my mind about someone else’s body, purely because I’m jealous that those thighs are not my own.

Ugh… So. Ugly.

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5 ways to slay at autumn body acceptance

Recently I asked my Instagram fam how they felt in the changing season i.e from summer to autumn, and it seems that the shift from long days to colder nights brings about some hella relief from body insecurities. Summer is relentless in it’s messaging to ‘get a bikini body’ or don’t dare wear one (cheers diet culture). The hot weather invariably means either pushing yourself to show some skin or should that feel like a fate worse than death, sweating it out as best as you can.


Autumn is kinder. Autumn says, ‘oh hey jumpers and boots!’. It’s hot chocolate, root vegetables, woolly hats and it’s seeing what gems you might find the pocket when you put on your winter coat again (like discovering last year’s snotty tissues and an occasional fiver).

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5 Easy tips to cultivate more joy

We all know that life isn't a bed of roses all the time. In fact, some times life can be really fucking hard, and it's entirely impossible to feel happy all the time. However, it's precisely for this reason that it's really important to cultivate this thing called joy. 

Imagine not worrying so much about what other people thought of you, spending less time wanting things you haven't got, wishing you weren't so stressed out all the time - well this practice can help with all these things. 

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How I learned to love exercise

I cannot tell you the lengths I would go to get out of PE at school. I absolutely fucking hated it. Even in primary school. For as long as I can remember I’ve had weight issues. I’m sure this can’t possibly be true but I cannot ever remember not being overweight. Luckily, I went to nice school and I was never severely bullied for it like some people, but I was definitely self-conscious from a very early age and never developed the love of sport my Dad had.

I remember being the last kid at the back of the pack during cross country running, walking with stitch. Ugh, makes me sad to think about it. It wasn’t that my parents didn’t try to make me do things. I was just way into drama and didn’t give a fuck about making myself exercise. Then at around age 10 I was diagnosed with a condition called Osgood Schlatter’s disease which is super common in kids who grow really quickly, like I did, and it put an end to any hopes of finding a sport I liked. One day, I got an acute inflammation in my left knee and my leg was put into a cast from ankle to hip! I’m not sure for how long, it must have been several weeks and I had to go to physio to walk properly again I remember that. These days I believe the treatment is different but after that I was given a lazy child’s golden ticket - a doctor’s note that said I was permanently not to do PE unless it was swimming. *shudders* A chubby teenager’s worst nightmare.

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How to be a festive badass.

OK so it’s the time to be merry and bright - but the reality is that many of us end up panicked about present buying, overindulging in food that doesn’t serve us and generally becoming shadows of our former-badass-selves. By the time January rolls around, we’re desperate for the only time of the year when it’s acceptable to tell your friend you’re ‘on a detox’.

Trust me, I know! At this halfway point in the month I was starting to feel the beginning of ‘festive frazzle’. Late nights, two impending family weekends away from home and a tree with currently no presents under it - no wonder I was starting to feel anxious!

My diet was also suffering - I’d been nibbling too many mini cheddars (a weakness), spending too much money on unhealthy bread-based breakfasts (something I try to avoid) and my afternoon tiredness meant I started to experience ‘sugar creep’.

Something had to give or else I wasn’t going to make it to the end of the month! It was time to take action. 

The key to being a festive badass all the way to January is to put your needs first. Now this might sound selfish, egotistical or down right impossible but trust me. It’s the only way NOT TO LOSE YOUR GOD DAMN MIND over the silly season. 

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