Posts tagged selfesteem
Why Body Acceptance is Not Failing

Body acceptance means learning to embrace yourself just as you are, lumps, bumps, scars, sags, dimples and all. It means stopping try to shrink, mould or change how you look through restriction or excessive exercise. And it means giving up that there’s a point in the future where your body will have conformed in such a way that you’re happy.

For a LOT of my clients getting to this phase feels a long way off. It feels like a whole different planet away sometimes.

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Why feeling lost in a good thing

This week I had a big conversation with a client who was having a crisis of feeling lost. You know that feeling right? The one where you feel like you’re treading water and going nowhere. Then wondering if you’re even travelling in the right direction. Yup one of those moments. But then it occurred to me that these moments of feeling alone or lost can actually be a good thing.

When we’re feeling lost it creates space to hear what you actually want, what your gut is telling you.
It gives us time and space to get honest and work out what it is that’s making us feel this way.  Ooph I know, getting honest with yourself is as tough as getting honest with anyone else right. But stay with me.  

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Why self-care isn't just a wellness fad

The term self-love and self care is thrown around like confetti these days and it can feel like it’s a green juice, matcha latte type of cliché.

But honestly, the reason people harp on about it is because it really is crucial for health and happiness. If you’re running around putting everyone else’s needs first you’re going to end up with horrible burn out - and then you’re no good for anyone!

 

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How to stop feeling fat (and ask yourself what's really up)

The other night, I caught myself ‘feeling fat’. Luckily, I’m pretty good at catching old thought patterns about my body so instead of allowing myself to step on the scales and play Russian roulette with my self-esteem (i.e. if the scales are less than I thought then I must be wrong, ‘feeling’ will be less and I’ll go back to feeling happy. But if the scales are up then the feeling must be right, I must be fat and my thoughts will spiral into a full body attack),  nuh uh, not anymore. Instead, I looked at the sensation with curiosity.

Fat is not a feeling it is a descriptor. I have fat, just like I have green eyes and bleached hair. I’m not fat. We all have fat. We would die without fat. Yet those three words are some of the most loaded we have in our back pocket. 

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The Selfie

Yesterday I met up with some old friends and as we finished up we took a selfie to remember the moment.

Then it happened... I looked at the photo and said, "Well it's not the best photo ever but we all have THIN FACES in it"... and I caught myself.. 

WTAF?!?! I'd just had a lovely brunch with two beautiful intelligent women and we'd discussed politics, books, cinema and our careers amongst other things... yet in one fell swoop I'd captioned our moment with something based entirely on how attractive I felt in the photo.

*THIS IS DIET CULTURE HANGOVER.*

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